Broken hearts

We all lost someone and it hurt. We might have lost them suddenly , unexpectedly, or we began losing pieces of them until one day there was nothing left. Perhaps we’ve known some of them all our lives or maybe we have barely known them at all. Regardless, we cannot control the depth of the wound another soul inflicts in us. I am not here to tell you that tomorrow is another day or that the sun will continue to shine or that there is plenty of fish in the sea. I am going to tell you that it is okay to hurt as much as you do because hurting is necessary to make you more human. I can’t promise you that it will get better any time soon, but, eventually, it will. And for now, take your time. Take all the time you need. Love, Carmen Monica



Sometimes you let go of people without even noticing. You stop thinking of them every day. You stop waiting for them to reply to you. You stop allowing them to take so much space in your life. You move on, you go about your day without worrying about them. You stop expecting them to come back with an apology.

You accept that they are no longer part of your life. You just let them go, as simple as that.

You may not see it today or tomorrow, but you will look back a few years from now and be perplexed and awed by how every little thing added up and brought you somewhere wonderful or where you always wanted to be. You will be grateful that things didn’t work out the way you once wanted them to.


Carmen Monica

A love letter

We have to tell the ones we love that we love them not for what they are, but for what we become when we are in their presence.

We should tell the ones we love that they are loved not only for what they made of themselves, but we love them for what they make of us too.

We must tell our loved ones that we love them because they bring out the best in us. We should tell our loved ones that we love them for putting their hands over our hearts and passing over all the foolish, weak things we do, and for drawing out into the light all the beautiful things that no one else had looked far enough to find them.

We should tell our loved ones that we love them because they help us make a temple from our lives, not a tavern. We must thank the ones we love for making us good and keeping us happy.

Tell your loved ones that they are loved for being themselves.


Carmen Monica



The essence of self-confidence is an optimistic attitude along with learning from our mistakes and recognizing that we can use everything that life throws at us as a lesson if we’re willing to be taught. Self-confidence is like a special elixir to help us face the challenges of life. It includes an aromatic blend of essences like attitude, experience, knowledge, wisdom, optimism, and faith. Self-confidence is available to everyone.

Most of us confuse self-esteem with self-confidence. Self-esteem consists of our feelings about ourselves, about how we love, accept and approve ourselves. How beautiful it will be to just waltz into a beauty salon and buy a bottle of self-confidence!

When you are not sure of yourself, but life asks you to be otherwise, it’s comforting to remember that you can borrow self-confidence from your authenticity. When we act as if we’re self-confident, we become so. If life challenges you, you must show confidence or acquire self-confidence from your authentic self.


Carmen Monica

Be the light

It’s better to light candles than to curse the darkness. It’ is better to plant seeds than to accuse the earth of not giving you fruit. The world needs our power, and love, and energy, and each of us has something that we can give back to the world. The trick is to find it and use it, to find it and give it away. So, it will always be more. We can be lights for each other, and through each other’s radiance, we will see the way. Each of us is a seed, a silent promise for better days ahead.

Until you rob yourself of the notion that you are a collection of needs, an empty vessel that someone else must fill up, there will be no safe place to harbor yourself, no safe shore to reach. As long as you think most of getting, you will have nothing real to give.


Carmen Monica